What Happened to MY HUSBAND, Is this the End??

sorry!!!!!

ummm - I'm the known person NOT to talk to about relationships, so I can't say nothin - but I hate you're going through this

Boy I am sorry that you are going through this, but obviously he felt that as long as you were fat, that no one else would want you...yada, yada yada.  So he was comfortable.

But now that you are considered a "normal" woman, he obviously feels that you may be tempted to explore your "options" & is scared & obviously is really scared, if he is accusing you of cheating.   Do you have a minister or therapist who you two can sit down with to discuss your issues with?

Unfortunately, this is all too common amongst weight loss surgery patients.  We are one of the fastest growing groups in the divorce stats.   I don't presume to speak your husbands heart or to know him well, but judging by what you said, he is scared.  You changed up the rules.  His comfort zone, his whole understanding of what you were and what you had together is changing.  He is feeling insecure and scared that you will leave him and that you will no longer want him.  In a nutshell, I believe by his actions he is panicking.  No, it's not your fault.  No, you haven't changed towards him.  No, you still do what you do and did what you did and nothing has changed....yet...everything has.

My advice, get some counseling and do it soon.  Weight loss should not mean marriage loss as well.  I'm sorry you are struggling.  I am lifting you in prayer.

Brenda

(((((HUGS)))))  I'd be a fool to call myself giving marital advice but I'm sending up prayers for you and hubby.   

Thanks everyone for the support,  Please keep me in your prayers

Angela